Low self esteem while dating a much younger man
But there is a fail-safe script that Julian Short advises for maintaining dignity even when you feel like a victim.
Our communication has got better.’‘If you are made bankrupt, lose your job, or your boyfriend has slept with your friend, you certainly deserve sympathy,’ says Julian Short.
'The original problem may remain, but you will feel happier if you have some control over the way people respond to you.’‘Dignity needn’t mean hiding your emotions or assuming a stiff-upper-lip stance,’ says Quilliam.
‘You can be upset and remain dignified as long as you are honest and maintain control.’ Cheryl Cole began her journey from gobby Girl Aloud to nation’s sweetheart by being unafraid to show her pain over her husband’s infidelity without ever breaking down in public.
‘Those who lack self-esteem tend to get angry with other people or be dependent on them when things go wrong.’ It’s impossible on hearing this not to think of another first lady, Cherie Blair.
Clever and high-achieving, she nevertheless wasn’t dignified – whether because of her tendency to get angry with people (the press, or anyone who criticised her), or her dependence on others (think Carole Caplin). The Obamas represent the end of the 'me, me, me' attitude that has prevailed since the 1980s Recently we’ve seen the new president of the Maldives, Mohamed Nasheed, give up the ostentatious wealth that previous presidents enjoyed and live in a modest town house to show solidarity with the recession-hit islanders.