Old young hook up
A romantic through-and-through, I had dreamed for years of my first kiss. When I told some friends I had found him and he was now famous, they suggested that I “network” and re-introduce myself to him online.A drunken slobber with a stranger was the brutal reality I would never be able to undo. But for the grace of God and a sister’s boyfriend, they end up in a stranger’s bed with a bad headache, a dry mouth, and an incalculable emptiness. I was horrified at the thought of doing any such thing; after more than thirty-five years, I was still deeply ashamed of that night.My students resonate deeply with Knapp’s experiences, and I continue to be struck by how unfree these students feel. I have not been raped, and I did not engage in non-marital intercourse.Once the culture embraced non-marital sex and made it the norm, women who do not want to have casual sex often feel like outcasts, like weirdos. I did have an encounter early in my life, however, that gives me a glimpse of the shame experienced by women who “hook up.” When I was sixteen years old, my sister took me to a bar near her college campus.When he came back with a Tequila Sunrise, he said it would taste great, like Hawaiian Punch.He was right; it was delicious, and I gladly accepted three more from him.
This “dumpster rape” is being blared about everywhere in the public square while a far more insidious and dangerous threat to women rages on directly under our noses, unacknowledged.I’ve only had sex with six guys.” This young woman was nineteen when she said this to me.Once, in a writing assignment about Socrates and the Allegory of the Cave, a student wrote that she decided to make better choices after she woke up one morning in a trailer, covered with scratches, naked, next to a man she didn’t remember meeting. All too often, these women come to me in a state of bewilderment.The fact that he ought to have been ashamed, however, did not mean that I needn’t have been.Had this fellow succeeded in taking me somewhere to do what he intended, I would have felt degraded.